Who to tell?

I was talking with a colleague the other day about having babies. When I have these conversations with people I always have that question in the back of my mind "do I want to tell them?" Then that question leads to:"How are they going to react?", "Am I going to cry?" and "Who are they going to tell?"

On this particular occasion, I was riding the emotional tight rope, so I didn't think I could have a decent discussion with her without the need of some tissues. She is the type of person whose eyebrows would immediately drop down sympathetically at the sides and apologise unnecessarily, and I need to have a strong game face on for that. I didn't mind her knowing, it's just that I know I wouldn't have been able to contain myself and I didn't feel like embarrassing myself again that day.

But there are definitely people I choose to avoid. Those people carry a ridiculous level of expectation and have their own agenda behind that question "so, when do you think you're going to have babies?" There is the over-eager friend, who tries to push the wonders of motherhood on to anyone of child-bearing age. I even had one tell me "You should have one soon, you're not getting any younger." And I was the same age as her. There is the family member who is looking for another cousin/playmate for their own kids. And there is the grandparent, eagerly awaiting the next grandchild - even though they already have 5 or 6.

You see, the thing is, if I told them my situation, I anticipate their reaction to be something like this:
THEM: "Oh no...have you been to the doctor?"
(No, I took a survey in a magazine and they told me I couldn't have babies)
ME: "Yes"
THEM: "What did they say?"
ME: "We're perfectly healthy."
THEM: "Have you tried this?"
ME: "No."
THEM: "Have you tried that?"
ME: "No."
THEM: "Don't worry. It will happen."
(Of course it will! Because you know so much more about my body than myself or my doctor. How ridiculous of me to have worried for nothing... No, it's NOT going to happen just because you said so! But thanks anyway for your useless input.)
ME: "Yeah, we'll see."

Sigh...sometimes it's just better that some people don't know.